How to Deal with a Homophobic Coworker

If you’re dealing with a coworker who makes homophobic comments, it can make the workplace uncomfortable, especially if you’re directly affected.

Here’s how to handle this situation in a constructive way.
 

Address the Behavior Directly

Sometimes, the best way to stop unwanted behavior is to approach it head-on. If you feel safe and comfortable, try telling your coworker clearly that their comments are offensive and inappropriate.

For example, you could say something like, “The comments you’ve been making are hurtful and unprofessional, and I’d appreciate it if you stopped.”

You might also talk to your other coworkers about the situation. If they agree that the behavior is offensive, consider addressing it together as a group. A small meeting—perhaps during lunch or after work—can give the coworker a chance to hear how others feel too.

Sometimes people don’t realize how harmful their behavior is, and they might apologize once the issue is pointed out.
 

Go to Human Resources (HR)

If the comments continue or if you don’t feel safe confronting the coworker directly, it’s time to escalate the situation. You can bring the issue to your company’s HR department.

Many workplaces have policies that prohibit harassment and discrimination, including those based on sexual orientation. HR can step in to address the behavior and ensure a more inclusive environment.
 

Check Your Legal Protections

It’s important to understand your legal rights as an employee. Here’s what to keep in mind:
 

• Federal Protections: The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) interprets federal law to protect employees from discrimination based on sexual orientation. However, this isn’t always fully enforced by the courts.
• State and Local Protections: Many states and cities have specific laws that prohibit sexual orientation discrimination. You can look up the rules in your area using tools like Lambda Legal's “In Your State” page or your local government website.

Even if your state doesn’t offer legal protection, your workplace may have anti-discrimination policies that apply.
 

Consider Legal Action

If your company doesn’t take the right steps to stop the harassment and you continue to face issues, it might be time to consult a lawyer. A legal expert can help you understand your rights and figure out how best to proceed.

By being proactive—whether through direct communication or involving HR—you can address the problem and encourage a more inclusive environment. Workplace harassment is avoidable, and taking action helps make everyone’s work experience better.

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